A friend said this to me the other day as we chatted about our struggles to let go of people in our lives that have disappointed us.
I like the saying because it makes me feel human; that it’s not easy to shut off feelings for someone that you cared about. That it takes time, patience, forgiveness and self-love to help you overcome those feelings of being hurt, and realizing that you deserve better.
Guys, it’s almost time for fall! One of my favorite times of the year. However, I don’t get to experience a proper fall this time around like I would back home (MN). San Francisco doesn’t have the typical seasons, you see. In fact, I’ve been told that October is actually the warmest month here. Strange, right?
So, of course I’ll miss the crisp air, beautiful colored leaves, and trips to apple orchards. But what I won’t miss is the possibility of an early snow in October. Yuck! I’ll appreciate snow around the holidays, but nothing before then, please.
Even though I don’t get my proper fall, the nice thing about San Francisco is that it actually does get quite cool in the evenings. Which means I still get to dabble in the fall fashion. One of my current faves: This wool fedora from Free People.
Alright, but enough about me. I know it’s been awhile, but here are some of my favorite links from this past week (err, past couple of months).
How to flirt study (very interesting)
Loving the Oh Joy for Target collection.
Tired of spending an hour trying to find a movie on Netflix? Try A Better Queue.
A reminder to stay present.
Or this pretty desktop reminder.
Flower dresses. So beautiful.
Fun little gold compliments to your fall fashion.
Anna Wintour is kind of fascinating, non?
P.S., It’s Friday! Have a lovely weekend, kids.
If you missed the first part of my journey, you can read about it here.
I woke up quite early on Sunday (6am) to head out for my first hike. Today was going to be an incredibly busy day. I had planned on stopping at three state parks to take selective hikes in each. Plus, I was in a bit of a time-crunch - My rental vehicle was due back to the garage at 7pm.
My first stop of the day was a little jaunt in Point Lobos State Park. This should be a definite stop if you’re making your way down to Big Sur. It was probably one of the most picturesque hikes I’ve been on in awhile.
Immediately after getting into the park, I drove over to Whaler’s Cove. I lucked out on my timing here - Apparently this site is popular for divers, and I made it just before the rush.
It was quite peaceful here in the morning sun. I stayed for a bit to enjoy the quiet views, took a little hike, & jumped back into my car to head over to China Cove.
I had read about China Cove online when searching for the best hikes to take in Point Lobos. Even with the reviews, I wasn’t expecting to discover such a beautiful scene.
Once you’re on the China Cove Trail, at some point you’ll go around a bend & stumble across an amazing view. The water in the cove was a magical combination of blue & green (picture does not do it justice).
The cove leads to a small little beach that, at the right time, you can walk down to. However, on this particular day there were momma seals with their newborn pups, so the beach was closed off.
From above, I watched the baby seals play and the momma seals swim into the cove looking for food. Even though I was little bummed out that I couldn’t get down to the beach, it was still a treat to see momma & pup seal love.
The next stop on the itinerary was Bixby Creek Bridge. At some point, you’ve probably seen the bridge in a movie or commercial.
The bridge itself didn’t quite make it into this picture, but what’s amazing about this spot is the cascading rock ledges reaching out into the beautiful blue ocean.
The bridge is to the left. Google Image it. It will be worth it.
As I continued to drive into Big Sur, I started to get a bit hungry, so I decided to pull off at the next stop, which ended up being the most adorable General Store I’ve ever seen, to pick up a quick snack & water.
The General Store was accompanied by a beautiful little garden, seating area & trickling fountain. I wanted to stay, but I was on a time-crunch you see.
Pfeiffer Big Sur State Park was up next. I was a little disappointed at first, only because I couldn’t quite navigate where I could pick up a hiking trails. So, instead I made my way out to Pfeiffer Beach.
The walk out there was a little… windy. But after you got through the sandblast, it opened up into a sprawling beach surrounded by big ocean rocks.
I sat on the beach for a bit, snacked, watched the surfers & enjoyed the view. Oh, & I should mention that the sand here has a tint of purple. How cool is that!?
After a little R&R, I jumped back into the car & made my way to the last stop on my trip through Big Sur, Julia Pfeiffer Burns State Park.
(Some more scenery along the way. Bring me that horizon.)
Before I forget to mention it, make sure to stop at The Big Sur Bakery for breakfast or brunch. Great food, wonderful atmosphere, & the nicest French host you’ll ever meet. He could not believe that I was making the trip on my own, was quite friendly & made me laugh. A must stop indeed.
So, let’s get back to it: Once you’re in Julia Pfeiffer Burns State Park, do yourself a favor & find McWay Waterfall Trail. It will lead you through a tunnel, where you’ll come across the most serene little beach scene.
This particular beach comes with a lovely little waterfall (McWay Falls) splashing down into the sand, the stream making its way to its final destination into the pretty blue of the ocean. All I kept thinking was, how can I get down to this little oasis. If only I had a jet ski.
As you can imagine, & thank goodness, the park is preserving this little beach, so your only view is from the top, making it that much more intriguing and beautiful. You want what you can’t have, right?
Unfortunately, I didn’t have too much time to spend here, but I think it’s fair to say that I saw one of more spectacular views.
Fast forward. I won’t go into the nitty-gritty of trying to get back to San Francisco by 7pm. Let’s just say that at one point there was a ton of traffic, a little hostility and road rage on my part, but in the end I made it back to the rental garage just in the nick of time.
I’ve never been on a trip before where it was just me. It was kind of nice, actually. Everything was on my terms, & I had time to clear my head without any distractions. If you need a quick trip out of the city, I would definitely recommend driving down to the Pacific Coast Highway. No matter what your destination, the drive & the scenery itself is stunning.
I hope my next trip to Big Sur includes a loved one, because it’s definitely a trip you’ll want to share.
"I don’t care how long it takes me, I’m going somewhere beautiful."
At the beginning of May, I decided it was a good time to take a trip down to Big Sur. I felt like I needed to get out of the city for awhile, clear my head, go hiking, & discover the Pacific Coast for myself.
So, that’s exactly what I decided to do. I rented a vehicle (a new VW Beetle, by the way) for two days, & over a weekend I drove down the Pacific Coast Highway to the last point of interest, Big Sur.
On Saturday’s Itinerary:
The first stop was Monterey, and more specifically, the Old Fisherman’s Wharf. Extended out into the water over boardwalks, I browsed shops, sipped on amazing clam chowder, and watched seals swim in the bay.
After my belly was full of chowder, I hoped back into my car and drove to the next little seaside town on my map: Pacific Grove.
Here, I stumbled upon a lovely little beach in a cove, where I walked barefoot in the sand, dipped my toes in the chilly water, and snapped a few photos.
Still barefoot, I made my way up a stone staircase that led me to what the local’s call Lover’s Point Park.
Which is when I discovered why the park had its respective name.
I captured the loveliest couple I’ve seen in a long time. They had packed a lunch and sat together on this bench, looking out at the ocean, remaining close as they shared their private moment together.
All I kept thinking of while taking the picture was that I wanted to have what that couple had. I want to grow old with someone.
After my heart stopped fluttering, I walked along Marine Gardens Park, which had beautiful little purple flowers blooming near the walkway. It was amazing to see such a pop of color against the blue ocean.
Next up was driving the 17-Mile Drive in Pebble Beach, which ultimately lead me to one of the most photographed trees in the world: The Lone Cypress.
It’s definitely a must-see. The backdrop and tree itself are absolutely awe-inspiring. Plus, the tree has a fascinating background story. It’s over 250 years old, survived a fire, & its species apparently only grows in this specific region.
The next stop was Carmel-By-The-Sea, which I 100% recommend visiting. It’s this adorable coastal town where, I swear, every little house is picturesque.
Besides being amazed by the beaches, the roads, the gardens, and basically everything about this town, I made two specific stops.
The Robbinson Jeffers Tor House (pictured above), which is quite lovely and apparently has a romantic story behind it. I didn’t have time, but you can take a tour of the grounds that I would love to do the next time I visit.
The last stop in Carmel was the Mission San Carlos Borroméo del Río Carmelo. Long story short, it’s this stunning little church with lovely gardens and fountains in its courtyard.
A wedding had just finished up as I was arriving, so I suppose I was lucky in that I was able to pop into the church and see the amazing woodwork and details inside.
And after a very busy day, I was pleasantly surprised when I finally checked into my hotel room in the evening, and discovered that I had a California King bed all to myself.
I was a very happy girl & it was a perfect ending to a great, adventurous day.
Be on the lookout for Part 2, which finally gets me into stunning Big Sur.
Awe, your message makes me happy :)
I’m traveling down Hwy 1 along the coast this weekend to Big Sur. So, I should have another blog post up soon!
I’ve been doing a lot of hiking on weekends with coworkers, visiting some pretty incredible places along the Marine County coastline.
Here are some of my favorite snaps from the past couple of weekends.
Found a beautiful waterfall trickling down to the beach.
Sunshine & the sound of waves made it pretty easy to take a nap on the beach.
Taking the ferry over to Sausalito.
Sausalito is this lovely little seaside town just on the other side of the Golden Gate Bridge. Or, hope on a ferry like I did and spend 25 minutes enjoying the views of the bay.
I’m ready to start dating again. It’s been awhile & it’s definitely time.
A little update on my love life: I’ve developed an intense crush on someone I work with, but I’m finding that it’s hot and cold with him, & I’m left trying to figure out how he feels about me.
Which brings me to this point: I’ve come to the conclusion that I don’t want it to be so hard. I’m hopeful that a man will come into my life & I’ll never have to second-guess if he feels the same way about me or not. I’ll just know, because over & over again he makes that known.
That’s what I want.
But dating in San Francisco is rather interesting…
First of all, the younger generation of straight men living here are incredibly driven (which is a good thing), but they’re in a relationship with their job. They don’t have the time to commit to anything else.
Second, everyone is on Tinder. The dating app is still a fairly new concept to me, even though it’s been around for a while now. Every singleton I know out here is on it. No joke.
So I guess don’t know where that leaves me. I’ve dabbled with Tinder, but I don’t think it’s for me. I’m looking for something a little more organic.
And that kind of scares me, because that’s leaving a lot up to fate.